When I lived in Atlanta, I took the train to work every day. I'm not exactly what you would call a "round-the-way" kinda girl, but for whatever reason, the thugs always gravitated towards me. I wore a cubic zirconia ring on my ring finger and always said that I was married to ward off their advances. One day on the train this well-dressed man approached me. He was clean cut, well-spoken, very different from the thugs to whom I was accustomed. "Hi, my name is Jake.* Not trying to hit on you, just wanted to let you know that I saw you at church Sunday so I thought I'd introduce myself."
Because I attended a mega church with thousands of people, it was hard to get to know other members, and I was pleased to meet him. Jake was a breath of fresh air. He and I sat together on the train often and conversed on our way to work. We became fast friends. He was a manager at a large company and gave me lots of career advice. He told me that he was married and I had no intention of trying to date him. We decided to meet at a popular cafeteria for lunch one day and discussed our kids, his wife, our church and whether or not he should join the church band. I thoroughly enjoyed his company and we made plans to have play dates with the kids and I looked forward to meeting his wife. I told him the next time he saw me in church to flag me down and I'd come sit with his family.
By the time I returned to my desk after lunch, Jake had sent me an email about how he was enamored with me, why we should be together and how he would take care of me. I am not flirtatious and don't know how our signals crossed. I said "you should try out for the church band," and he heard "we should commit adultery." I guess women and men do communicate differently. I was angry at myself for being so naive, and angry with him for thinking that I would stoop that low and be his mistress.
I learned that day that the phrase "I'm a Christian" is a line too. Oftentimes, boys and men alike will get to know you and then say whatever they think you want to hear to get what they want. When you meet a potential date in church or you meet someone who regularly attends church, you must remember that attending church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car.
More to come on this topic...